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How to support your partner....
January 24, 2014
2:20 pm
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rizky.nelson
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Hi all,

 

I hope you all had a nice christmas and new year.

 

I need some advice from you all, recently I have been playing a lot of doubles and I consider my self a good partner as I never moan to my partner and always support them. I was playing with one of my colleague last week and as we lost, I told my partner not to blame herself and we will get them on the re-match with a smiley face. However, she turn around to me and replied that everytime I said something to support her, I sound patronising. So now, I hardly say a word to my partner when we play together.

 

Help please…. Laugh

January 24, 2014
11:15 pm
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Hi Rizky,

 

Sorry to hear that! Whenever I have played with you I find you to be a great partner – you are encouraging and are never negative!!

Perhaps it was just one of those days where you partner was not on their game and felt that it was their fault – hence any comment from you was not well received?

Don't stop the communication. I would probably have a word with your partner to clear things up. Trust me, I can be a right pain to play with and often say the wrong thing – but I don't believe this is the case here – you are a good player and a good partner.

 

John13

January 28, 2014
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On this occasion I'd rather bow to John's local knowledge.

 

Paul

January 28, 2014
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Roger
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In more general terms commenting on a partners abilities during a game is always fraught with danger. As John eluded to, if the partner has, as we all have, an off day then your not going to be sure that comments are going to be received in the spirit they were given.

Having been guilty of it myself I can confirm a thin line between trying to support a partner through a bad patch and sounding condescending or patronising.

There is no easy answer as all partners are different. As a coach I learned very early on that not everyone appreciates tips on their game when they're not asked for and a lot of discretion is the order of the day. We have all had partners when, to put it mildly, a frank exchange of views is perfectly acceptable and others when no comment is the best policy.

My failing was saying “bad luck” when my partner had clearly hit an awful shot and I now see how annoying this would become.

John is right in that a conversation addressing a partners grievances is the most preferable line to take.   

February 3, 2014
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Hi Rizky,

I have partnered you many times. And as I have commented to John, you make me personally very relaxed and you are very supportive.  I love the way you tap me with your racket and say 'good one' or 'we can do this' .

 

Unfortunately, some partners' have a rose tinted out look on their abilities. And may hit back with cutting words when reality strikes.

 

Please don't change us ladies love partnering you x

 

Karena

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March 6, 2014
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Hi ricky, as the old phrase goes you cant please all the people al of the time and it rings a bell here. If ever in doubt say nothing at all but this doesnt help the situation if they are going from bad to worse. The only phrase I have found to be useful in this situation and to try to get your partner out of a bad place is:

 

“Next shot, move on, next shot!

It tries to get them to forget about the rubbish shot or way they have been playing and focus on playing the next shot better hopefully. Give it a go lol.

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